The Healthy Celiac Podcast

Grieving Gluten

August 08, 2022 Belinda Whelan Season 1 Episode 70
The Healthy Celiac Podcast
Grieving Gluten
Show Notes Transcript

If you have been feeling all the feels since finding out you can no longer eat gluten, this episode will help you understand these various stages of grief.

In today's episode I am talking about the 5 Stages of Grieving Gluten.

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Speaker 1:

Getting diagnosed with celiac disease makes us feel a whole heap of different emotions. But what I'm seeing time and time again is people are grieving gluten, and they're going through these stages of grief and not why. So today I wanted to talk about the five stages of grieving gluten and help you understand that it's completely normal. And however you are feeling is completely valid. And I want you to understand that it gets easier. So we're gonna talk about the five different stages of grieving gluten to help you get through it. So let's jump straight into it. So the first stage that you might have felt when you were first diagnosed with celiac disease and found out that you could no longer eat, gluten was probably denial. Not for everyone. I'm not saying everyone has this stage, but this is generally the first stage. This would be in particular, if you've never heard of celiac disease before your diagnosis, or perhaps you had an asymptomatic version of celiac disease where you don't actually have symptoms. So you might be just saying, this is how is this happening to me? You know, you might be having all of these overwhelming emotions and you don't want to believe that this is happening to you. So complete denial don't wanna accept it. Don't want to basically face the fact that you now have to eat gluten free and that you've got celiac disease, and this is your new way of life. So that is the first stage. The second stage can be anger. And it's basically because anger is the pain of loss of something. So if you think of a time where maybe you've lost a loved one, anger is a big part of that. And it is no different when it comes to celiac disease and grieving gluten. So you may feel angry and peed off that you can't eat the foods that you want to eat anymore. And that is completely valid. It is okay to have those feelings. It is okay to feel through those emotions and understand that it's completely normal. And it's part of the healing process. Then you move on from stage two into stage three and that's bargaining. And I see this more and more with people that don't get that many symptoms, they kind of bargain with themselves. They bargain with other people that have got celiac disease and they try to justify why it's probably okay for them to still have a little bit of gluten because they don't get side effects or, you know, what really are the long term side effects that Hey, it's probably okay. And another thing that I see a lot of is people blaming their doctors for misdiagnosing them, Hey, perhaps my doctor didn't actually get it correct. Maybe I don't have celiac disease. That is all part of bargaining. And that is part of a stage of grief. Okay? That is part of you grieving your gluten and it can again be completely normal. You may not have had this yourself, but these are the stages that many people go through. So just know that it's perfectly normal. If you are going through this at this point in time, or you know that you've had these emotions and then we move on to step four or stage four rather, and that is depression. And many people get to this point because it's hard. It's a big change. It's, it's something completely different. For many, many people. It , it affects so many parts of your life. As far as the way that you eat, the way that you socialize, how you go about your day. It affects so many things. So it's, it's almost normal to go into a depressed state and it's perfectly okay to feel that life sucks. And you don't wanna get outta bed in the morning, or you might even be thinking, I don't want to eat because this is so depressing. And I don't know what to eat. I don't know how to look after my body. I'm hungry all the time, or I don't have the energy to do this. I don't want to think about it. It is just part of , unfortunately. And then we move on to number five, which is acceptance. And when you get to this stage, life can be very, very different. So the thing with acceptance is you can still feel that it's unfair. It can definitely still feel unfair. I have little twangs every now and again, where I think GE I'd really love to eat a chocolate donut , and it's not fair because the chocolate donuts that I've had that are gluten free , absolutely suck. And I just wanna eat a chocolate donut , but I can't. So it sucks, but I know that this is what my body needs to thrive. I need to eat gluten free . And it's just the way it is. And I'm kind of blessed that I've got this diagnosis because now I can move on and I can eat well, I can nourish my body and I can be the best version of me. So even though we can still feel every now and again, that it sucks and that we missing out and all of these different emotions, having acceptance and really just accepting that this is just part of it. And this is the way life is now is the last stage of grieving gluten. And once you get to that point, which I'm sure you will, some people take a little bit of time to get there. And some people take years, you are , we're all different. And I don't know when you'll reach that point, but when you do, please believe me in that it gets better. It really does get better. And you'll enjoy your life so much more when you're

Speaker 2:

At, at that point, because once you've accepted your new way of eating, <laugh> your new lifestyle. You'll be so much happier. You'll be so much healthier and you'll be able to go on and do all the wonderful things that you are here on this earth to do. So I hope that helps just a little pep talk for you today, and I'm sure if you've made it this far through the episode, you needed to hear this message today. So thank you so much for listening and I look forward to being back with you here on the show again, next week. Take care. Bye .